What's with everyone "NEEDING" a theme?

colors, to me, are theme enough.





unless you are big in to hiking, boating, fishing, horses, or something else i'm not sure why you would think you need to focus on a specific theme





don't you feel that colors or flowers, or something along those lines, are "theme" enough??





your thoughts...

What's with everyone "NEEDING" a theme?
lol I answered once that the theme of a wedding should be 'wedding' and boy, did I get razzed.....





I don't get it..Yeh, it used to be the bride picked her colors, the dress %26amp; her maids.....her flowers, the banquet hall...you know, simple stuff...the 'theme' was in the style of the bridal dress, tuxes, colors, the maid's dresses, the wedding cake, if it was a morning, afternoon, evening wedding....casual, semi-formal, formal.......





Guess that's gotten too boring for a lotta folk...they gotta make a statement.





Now adays it seems like a prom or B.D.party....goth weddings, vampire/halloween weddings, middle age pagentries where even the guests are told they need to 'dress', fairytale cinderella weddings, people riding horses down the aisle, dog ring bearers........





Maybe I'm old school but a wedding is not about making a statement or doing something over the top to outdo the next guy...you don;t need to spend thousands apon thousands of dollars and stage a wedding like it's some huge broadway play or festival......shouldn't getting married to the guy/gal you love be memoriable enough? And quite frankly, memoriable is as memoriable does.....the precious memories belong to the bride %26amp; groom....and the parents who watch their babies tie the knot....impressing guests by how fantastical your wedding is compared to someone elses (because I believe that is why it's truely done) is NOT what a wedding is all about.....and all these 'theme' weddings do is put a huge profit in some one else's pocket...it doesn't guarentee the sucess of the marriage or make yours any more pecious than the next guy's.....nor should it be an opportunity to pretend one lives in the 13th century, is Cinderella,Jasmine, Belle or any other Disney Cartoon....I honestly feel it takes away from the sacredness and dignity that should be part of a wedding, and totally forgets that a wedding is just as much for the families as it is for the bride %26amp; groom.....I remember all the family weddings I have been to and they were simple traditional events reguardless of how much or little was spent.....a theme wedding? I want to leave with sweet memories...not with a WTF was THAT, a wedding or a Play, a hollywood set, or a three ring circus......and that's how I wanted my wedding remembered as well. And they were, both of them. Less is always more...and their is no such thing as a perfect wedding or it's 'YOUR' day...it's the families day........a coming together of two families to celebrate the formation of a new family within their midsts..and for those of you who are religious, it's about God.
Reply:I agree what is the need for a theme. A wedding is simply the marriage and celebration of two people vowing the lives and love to another. Using an idea throughout the entire wedding gets too busy for me. Using colors and flowers should simply be enough in my opinion. Maybe adding something in favors or the grooms cake that is representative to the two of you is fine but overdoing it with everything focused on one idea is silly to me. Sometimes I think people that specifically are looking for a theme really don't have a clue on how to pull everything together without everything matching. I do realized there are some that are really into things together like you said fishing hiking ..... but I still don't think it needs to be in everything for the wedding. I also don't think having a theme makes a wedding reception fun either. Good fun, good company and a good DJ does that!
Reply:I like themes, but there are not very everybody. Flowers and colors or "Hey, it's a wedding!" can be theme enough.








I have seen people do apple themed weddings (they were both teachers), a Halloween themed wedding, it was in October, a Star Wars themed wedding, they are big SW geeks and a beach themed wedding as that is where they were going for the first time on their honeymoon. I have also seen Christmas and 4th of July themed weddings, which are fun too.


It's really up to the couple what they want to do. Some people enjoy the theme-ness, others don't. I don't think it matters anyway, every wedding has a theme, the love that you share.





BTW: My theme is "theme parks"! I'm getting married in one!
Reply:Everyone has a theme for their wedding! Even if it is just colors. Say your colors are blue and purple, there's your theme! Some people like to have a theme to add a little more. You can use a theme in a lot of things, and most places sell their items as themed items, so that they sell more. I wanted a themed wedding, and we've finally picked our theme "Eloping and going to Disney World!" I hope you have fun and congratulations!
Reply:I had various shades of purple and people asked me what my "theme" was. I told them that I didn't have a theme. It wasn't the Grape Wedding or the Hydrangea Wedding, it was a purple wedding with no real theme. We had some touches of baseball for my hubby, but it was in no way a baseball wedding! I don't think weddings really need themes, but sometimes it just helps people focus their ideas to say that they have a theme.
Reply:idk, before being on this site, I thought themes were for birthday parties!


The theme of a wedding is "A Wedding!". Sure you choose colors, but that's just part of making things happy and beautiful.


It's different to have traditions and customs which are ethnic or family related. For example, we had a Ukrainian wedding with lots of things related to our nationality, but that was not our 'theme' - it's just what it was, because that's what we all are!
Reply:I SO agree with you. There already IS a theme - it's 'wedding'.





I don't get the whole theme thing. Too many people are putting WAY too much time and money and effort and stress into one day. I'm not saying not to have fun, but so many people are emotionally and financially stressed in creating a wedding. It's supposed to be a celebration, not a torture.
Reply:A "theme" wedding is just another way of someone making money off of the event. Who needs a wedding planner to spend your money on themes. Just have a happy wedding day and use those colors and make your wedding ceremony and the fact that you really love each other the 'theme'. Have a wonderful wedding and good luck.
Reply:Well, I think everyone is different. You may not need a "theme" but other brides may think it makes their wedding fun or pulled together. Everyone's tastes are unique. What is important is that you just simply design a wedding that reflects you and your groom. Period. That's it.
Reply:Actually, it wasn't until recently I'd ever heard of a 'theme' wedding...mine, my sister's, and every one I've ever been to was just a wedding...no "theme" other than 2 people getting married.





Make it what you want...the more people add to it the more stress, the more that can go wrong, and the higher the cost.
Reply:I have been to a few theme weddings and it just seems to me like they are a little too busy. One of our themes is that I used hearts wherever I could - but even that's really subtle. If you don't like it, don't have a theme!
Reply:I don't know. I hate themes. However, when I was planning the wedding, every vendor I went to was like "what's your theme???". So there was a point where I thought I *had* have a theme...





My "theme" was my colors.
Reply:its just up to the person. but i just like the color thing rather then a theme. the only thing i did was pick out a color and then found a design for the toasting glass, server set and cake topper. themes are just so out of control with every ones wedding.
Reply:At my wedding we only had a theme of colours. We just had red and white. White being a typical wedding colour and red as I fell in love with these red bridemaids dresses. We then had red and white roses. That was theme enough for us.
Reply:quite honestly its over-rated. i'm gettign married in july and we have no theme. our invitations are red and black so i guess we'll have something red in the wedding. its not going to be elaborate or anything...just a simple beach wedding with about 30 guests so...
Reply:uh cause some people like themes and theme parties. I grew up having to go to events that always had to have a theme so for my wedding I opted for no theme but to those who want a theme good for u! To each its own!!!
Reply:I think themes are for birthday parties and the like. "Wedding" is a wonderful theme for a wedding. There is no need to bring in a whole dog and pony show to the mix. I fail to see the point.
Reply:My theme was "we love each other and are getting married" meaning no theme, ha ha. A lot of people are more interested in wowing their guests and keeping up with all of their friends than anything else. Let them, it's their dime.
Reply:i don't have a theme ether because i really like most wedding themes and i could not make up my mind. so its just gonna be our colors that's it.
Reply:There are some that want a theme. I see nothing wrong with it. I just had colors for our wedding day. good luck. :)
Reply:it says about a person's life and lifestyle
Reply:A theme could be anything from something obvious like boating, hiking,cinderella to something simple like i'm having blue bridesmaids.





You may not realise but even when you just choose colours you are creating a "theme" as such.





When you choose your dress it matches with your bridesmaids who tie in with your flowers that coordinate with your venue..... see what i mean.





Your theme is just an outward word to show others the wedding you are dreaming of in your head rather than a whole lot of details.





For example if someone says they are having a "cinderella" wedding images like a coach, princesses, castles, royalty, big gowns and chandeliers instantly come to mind. Vendors can easily guess the idea you want to head towards on the day.





I can also say i'm having a semi-formal wedding (lots of ideas come to mind), my bridesmaids are in purple (again lots of ideas - long dresses, short dresses, structured, party dresses) and i'm having roses in my bouquets (again lots of images - what shape, tight or loose, lots of buds or just one or two).





Both give you a different mental image of a wedding event.





One has been given a "theme" and the other is a wedding.





One can be summarised in a word and the other needs a little explanation to get the exact wedding day dream.





Put together some of your ideas and you will see that there is an underlying theme to what you want for your day, you are just more relaxed about it than some of the other brides on here!!