Whats happening to hubby why is he so distant?

My husband has become distant with me, intamacy 0, affection 0, I really miss him even though he sits right beside me on the sofa everyday.We used to hold hands in the car when we are in the car, we used to hug and kiss each other. Can't remember the last time he REALLY kissed me. last time i got flowers or the last time he acted like he wanted me.Actions speak louder than his words. I feel more like a neighbor buddy that comes over to say hi .I miss having him walk up behind me and kiss me softly on the neck, look me deep into my eyes and i can see %26amp; feel his love and pasion for me.We used to be spontanous so i tried to get his attention dripping wet from the shower and he didnt even pretend to look my way. I tried talking to him telling him how i feel, he says nothing.when I ask ?'s he avoids them.he told another woman he thought she was the most beautiful woman he has ever seen and for her to drop him a line sometime. Then he wrote on answers that his wife found out and how2explain

Whats happening to hubby why is he so distant?
There is a problem. It may not be cheating, but could be a financial issue, work issue, etc. Do you go to counseling? If not, it would be good to go to a counselor and get some strategies to approach your husband.
Reply:It does happen in a marriage after such a long period. He seems to have lost the interest. He is bored and there is nothing which could excite him.



I being a husband advice:



1. Change your dressing style and do make up before he arrives. Do some excercise and eat healthy to bring glow to your face.



2. Wear decent dresses not those which expose a lot. And you should also know what type of dresses he likes.



3. Talk to him with lots of love but do not touch him. And avoid with a smile when he tries to touch or kiss you.



Please remember Men run after something which is not within their reach. Do not make yourself easily available to him



And do all that he likes(except sex- avoid it for few days).



And most important, when his interest in you returns back, go to your parents' house or relatives for few days and keep on talking to him over phone. Show a lot of care and concern for him. Stop calling in between for one or two days



And you would know when is the time to come back. He will be ready to receive you with volcanic burst inside his belly and lot of affection for you in his heart.



Try this will surely work
Reply:He is an idiot! and is in love with someone else, or just plain fell out of love or lust with you. I would ask for a straight answer and leave his *** cuz odds are its not going to be what you want to hear. there are tons of romantic nice guys out there looking for real love to have to settle for a two timer.
Reply:NOTHING TO PANIC....



I DON'T KNOW HOW MUCH TIME IS PAST SINCE YOUR MARRIAGE. BUT SURE THERE IS A WAY. YOU ALWAYS TRY TO MAKE HIM FEEL FOR YOU. PRESENT YOUR SELF IN A NEW WAY/ NEW LOOK ACCORDING TO HIS LIKING. ASK HIS CHOICE AND TRY TO MAKE HIM HAPPY. YOU SEEMS TO BE A PERSON WITH GOOD MANNERS. JUST MAKE HIM FEEL THAT HE NOT GETTING FULL USE OF YOUR BRAIN, BEAUTY %26amp; YOUR POSITIVE POINTS. DISCLOSE YOUR QUALITIES BUT THAT TOO ONE BY ONE AND DAY BY DAY, IT INCREASES LOVE. HOPE YOU CAN DO IT.



FEEL HIS PROBLEMS AND TRY TO RESOLVE THEM.



ALWAYS KEEP POSITIVE THINKING.



GOOOOOOD LUCK. BYE.
Reply:U might need to make desperate moves to make him understand this. If u have already spoken and he isnt giving much abt it... then u need to try and take a vacation together. If he is against that.... u try and find better interests in ur life. Like invite friends over... or u go and visit them. Try to make him feel u no longer need him AS WELL. Trying dressing prettier than usual when u go out... get some attention... this should burn him down. Make sure u r dressed pretty and smart.... not Vulguar. Also when u r around ur kids... give them more attention than to him.



But dont ever do the mistake of sleeping in seperate rooms... coz it just want bring u together... the distance can only get worser.



Just keep ur hopes high.... this man has to eventually come around u.
Reply:You got a lot of love to give a man who is starving for love.dump this loser before its too late
Reply:Sounds to me like he may have lost interest, he may be cheating, and or "the honeymoon is over"!
Reply:let him know how you feel. then tell him he needs to change or your outta there. cause you deserve to be loved.
Reply:Well I have to say he is cheeting on you, but don't be mad at the women or at yourself be mad at him. You tried and you did your best, I know now you need to be sure that he is doing it. I would recommend you take his cell phone and look into any strange calls or messages. Or get some kinda proof to confront him, being a man "we will never admitt it". Your probably going to feel sad, but if he has done this he doesn't deserve you, remember once a cheater always a cheater.
Reply:he is in love with the other woman, and it is useless to try to change things, even if he hasn't yet cheated he is planning it.
Reply:Yikes, it doesn't sound good. I'm so sorry you're going through this. It's sad when a marriage is in trouble. The really

bad thing here is that he won't talk to you. If only he would communicate, you could ask him what the problem is and then work it out. The only thing I can suggest is that you ask him if he'd be willing either to go see a marriage councilor by himself or with the two of you. Sometimes a spouse will talk to a professional rather than their partner. See if he'll go. The underlying reason for his coolness towards you has to be uncovered and only he knows what that is. To me, it sounds like maybe he's bored in the marriage or he's fallen out of love with you. The fact that he tried to pick up another woman then wanted advise about it from strangers shows a complete lack of decency. He obviously does not respect you. And without respect, you don't have a relationship. Not to mention communication. If you want to save the marriage, try going into marriage counciling. If he won't go by himself or with you, then go alone. It will at least make you stronger and give you insight. Personally, he sounds like a jerk and I don't think he's worth it but only you can decide that. Good luck.
Reply:something you did or said has turned him off , talk to him and ask why